5 minutes with a… divorce coach

It was a normal Tuesday afternoon when my phone pinged telling me I had a Facebook DM.
“Hi Michelle, I’d love to interview you for my blog. I specialise in supporting mums through separation and many need help getting back into the workforce. Would you be interested in answering a few questions? Prue”
What a brilliant service I thought….I clicked on her website
It read:  “PRUDENCE HENSCHKE, DIVORCE COACH.”  “How wonderful” I thought. I read on.
I specialise in helping working mums with young children feel supported calm and confident as they navigate a relationship break up.
I promptly sent the page to 3 of my friends who desperately needed a Prue Henschke in their lives.
Then I emailed Prue back agreeing to interview for her as long as she would interview for us! Luckily for the Mumma Bird tribe she agreed!
Hi Prue,
Mumma Bird Resume Service is a resume and career service for mums. We see a large number of mums who have gone through or are going through a divorce and need help with their resume and/or finding a job. Mumma Bird aims to support all our clients by equipping them with the right tools and reminding them how awesome they are! We think your values are the same as ours and can’t wait to find out more about you!

Tell us a little bit about yourself Prue?

I’m a mum to two boys aged 3 and 5.  They are wild and cheeky and keep me perpetually exhausted.

I moved to Melbourne 15 years ago from Adelaide, where I was born and raised.  I live near the beach, which is my happy place.

I have worked for almost 15 years as a family lawyer specialising in helping people sort out arrangements for their children and the division of their property following the end of a relationship.

I’ve been self-employed for the past 7 years and have a law practice in bayside Melbourne.

I recently started a new business offering online divorce coaching. Divorce coaching involves working with one of the parties to a separation, supporting them with the practical and emotional aspects of the transition.

What made you start divorce coaching? 

In my role as a family lawyer, I often see clients who are clearly struggling with the process and need extra help.  In the past I would often refer these clients for counselling, even though this wasn’t exactly what I felt the needed. Divorce coaches fill a gap.  They provide guidance and support to someone as they navigate a separation, right from the very beginning when the relationship has just ended, to when they are beyond their divorce and may, for example, need help with issues around co-parenting.  I liken the relationships with a divorce coach to having a best friend – someone who is sympathetic and on your side, but is also organised, logical and balanced. The added benefit of a coach is they are also impartial and can challenge you to see things from a different perspective.

I feel Divorce Coaching is a much needed service, which will help people separate more peacefully (and save money and time in the process).

On a personal level, coaching plays into a lot of my interests.  I have always enjoyed learning about personal development, health and wellness.  I can draw on this knowledge and share it with clients to help them on their journey.

What’s the best piece of advice you can give a mum who has lost their self-confidence?

Self-confidence is something which can ebb and flow for all of us. So first, realise you aren’t alone.  Doing something which challenges you, but that you enjoy and with practice can improve at, can foster self-confidence. Hobbies are an obvious choice. Don’t underestimate the power of dancing, weightlifting, cake making – doing something you enjoy – to build your confidence and self-esteem.

How important do you think it is for women to have a tribe supporting them? 

I think it’s crucial. Navigating hard times alone, makes them all the more challenging. In difficult times you need support around you. Some people find that relationships with friends and family change post-separation.  People they had anticipated would rally around them, don’t show up in the way they had expected.  In other cases, coupled up friends may no longer extend invitations. If you find yourself in this situation, as challenging as it may be, building a new support network is important. Some ideas of finding your tribe are joining one of several Facebook pages devoted to single mums, where you can find other mums who can support you online and in real life.  Other local mums groups have regular meet-ups where you may be able to build some new friendships.  Apps like Mush and Bumble BFF also offer opportunities to meet likeminded mums.

Finally it’s 3pm on a Wednesday and you’ve just realised you have nothing planned for dinner. What’s your go to meal? 

Roast chicken, with sweet potato fries. It is quick, easy and is eaten with minimal complaining.

My website is www.prudencehenschke.com

Instagram is https://www.instagram.com/prudencehenschke/

Facebook is https://www.facebook.com/pg/prudencehenschkedivorcecoach/

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